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Help[Opinions] Re: Eireann (pron. Erin)
in reply to a message by Vermilion27
Hmm. My mum always says that if you have to start by saying, "I mean no offense", you're probably going to say something offensive. I know you didn't mean it that way, but that's certainly how it came out.
Also, it's pretty rude to ask "what's wrong with" someone just because of their naming choice. I don't agree with my friend's sister's choice of a name either, but I wouldn't dream of suggesting that there was something "wrong" with her. Crikey, I've never even met her! Worse is to suggest that there is something wrong with my friend. I'm going to assume that you just didn't read carefully or mistyped or something.
Besides, asking "what is wrong with your friend?" puts me in a situation of having to defend or back up my friend. I don't have to do that, so I won't. I just hope that you'll be a little more carefull with your wording next time.
~ Cait
Also, it's pretty rude to ask "what's wrong with" someone just because of their naming choice. I don't agree with my friend's sister's choice of a name either, but I wouldn't dream of suggesting that there was something "wrong" with her. Crikey, I've never even met her! Worse is to suggest that there is something wrong with my friend. I'm going to assume that you just didn't read carefully or mistyped or something.
Besides, asking "what is wrong with your friend?" puts me in a situation of having to defend or back up my friend. I don't have to do that, so I won't. I just hope that you'll be a little more carefull with your wording next time.
~ Cait
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Ditto ... I hate those phrases ("I don't mean to be nasty but ...", "Don't take this the wrong way but ...").
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I edited this because I realized what the problem was.
This message was edited 1/11/2005, 4:13 AM
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Sorry, but she's right . . .
I always wonder why people find it easier to tag "no offence" onto an extremely offensive sentence, rather than refraining from being offensive in the first place?
Asking "what's wrong with" someone is aggressive and judgemental, and extremely unfair. There are much better ways to express your opinion of a name than to attack the mental stability of the namer.
I always wonder why people find it easier to tag "no offence" onto an extremely offensive sentence, rather than refraining from being offensive in the first place?
Asking "what's wrong with" someone is aggressive and judgemental, and extremely unfair. There are much better ways to express your opinion of a name than to attack the mental stability of the namer.
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I wasn't attacking anyone's mental stability. My god. I was only joking around to begin with. I apologize to anyone else who may have been offended by my "aggresive" and "judgemental" tendencies.
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If you're "joking around", put in a smiley to make it clear that your comment is not designed to be taken literally. That's the accepted practice in internet/email communication, and has been for many years. It avoids this sort of confusion.
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To Cait
I see what the problem is. In my original post, I asked what was wrong with her friend, when I meant the friend's sister. I think that was part of the problem. So, to Cait: I'm sorry. I really had no intention of offending you, or anyone else. I'll change the other posts to avoid any future problems. Sorry. I hope there are no hard feelings.
I see what the problem is. In my original post, I asked what was wrong with her friend, when I meant the friend's sister. I think that was part of the problem. So, to Cait: I'm sorry. I really had no intention of offending you, or anyone else. I'll change the other posts to avoid any future problems. Sorry. I hope there are no hard feelings.
This message was edited 1/11/2005, 4:15 AM
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No problem, thanks for the apology :-)
~ Cait
~ Cait
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