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in reply to a message by tegwen22
I have two reactions to this question.
The first is a professional one. I'm a lawyer and the thought of all of her dd's records (SSA, Homeland Security / passport) having two different names gives me a headache just thinking about it. Legally going into court and changing the name is not that difficult. It's the aftermath that I'd shy away from.
The second reaction is to wonder what kind of a psychological wimp your friend thinks she's raising. Kids take their attitudes from their parents. If I had ever gone to my mother and complained about my name not matching my siblings she'd have told me to eat my vegetables and do my homework. She's supposed to be strengthening her dd, not letting her fall apart at every imagined non-issue. What's going to happen when this child runs into a real problem in her life?
Sorry to rant, but this just doesn't seem like a problem worth worrying about to me.
The first is a professional one. I'm a lawyer and the thought of all of her dd's records (SSA, Homeland Security / passport) having two different names gives me a headache just thinking about it. Legally going into court and changing the name is not that difficult. It's the aftermath that I'd shy away from.
The second reaction is to wonder what kind of a psychological wimp your friend thinks she's raising. Kids take their attitudes from their parents. If I had ever gone to my mother and complained about my name not matching my siblings she'd have told me to eat my vegetables and do my homework. She's supposed to be strengthening her dd, not letting her fall apart at every imagined non-issue. What's going to happen when this child runs into a real problem in her life?
Sorry to rant, but this just doesn't seem like a problem worth worrying about to me.
This message was edited 5/19/2009, 2:42 PM
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