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My mothers mn is Gay and I want to honor her however I do not like her fn. I like Gay and the meaning I am just weary to use it obviously for the well obvious reasons. I would use Gay as mn.
Any opinions is it redemable even though our modern age
Any opinions is it redemable even though our modern age
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I used to babysit a girl at church named Gay. Her parents were named Guy and Betty Jo. The mom wanted to name her dd something similar to Guy so she named her Gaythelene Irene (gm's name). The whole combo was pronounced gay-tha-LEEN eye-REEN. Hideous, huh? Anyway, her name certainly was not easy to live with, that's for sure. (As a side note, Gay married an Italian and named her ds Alessandro. Way to go, Gay!)
Gay has a nice sound but I'd keep it in the middle.
BTW, I adore Isla.
Gay has a nice sound but I'd keep it in the middle.
BTW, I adore Isla.
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My BF's great-uncle is named Gay, and he has no troubles with it. (although he was born before it had the obvious stigma tacked on)
In that particular situation, I'd use Gay as a middle name, or use a similar name as the first name, such as Gail.
In that particular situation, I'd use Gay as a middle name, or use a similar name as the first name, such as Gail.
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I actually rather like Gay but I don't think any kid would want to bear it, even as a mn.
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I have a lovely cousin named Gaye. She's such a nice lady that to me it seems like a really sweet and happy name, but she's also in her sixties, so I don't think she gets a lot of comments beyond 'that's unusual' - and I do think it would be a difficult name to have as a child now. Gaynor might be a bit more usable. Gaëlle / Gaelle is nice too.
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I know someone who's up in yrs. whose name is Gae. Perhaps if a different spelling is acceptable, you could use that to curb people's attitudes since both are ok... or you could find a name w/ similar meaning to either her fn or mn... Another way to do things is to ask your mum if she could have chosen her own name, what would she have picked and use that.
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Personally, I vote that you go ahead and use it as a middle name and just tell her that if anybody makes fun of her, it's because they're ignorant so, their opinion doesn't count.
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I have a friend whose ln is Gay; unfortunately her initials are B.J. This causes amusement sometimes when people walk past her office door and see the name plate.
Isla Gay would work; also Lucy Gay, Antonia Gay, Fenella Gay ...
Isla Gay would work; also Lucy Gay, Antonia Gay, Fenella Gay ...
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Sorry, but I don't think Gay is usable at this day and age, at least not in the English-speaking world. I don't recommend it.
Gaia or Gail could work, though.
Gaia or Gail could work, though.
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I know a lady named Gaylia. Would that be close enough to honor?
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That is a tough one. Though most societies are getting better at being more respectful of different lifestyles, there is still a huge wall of "us vs. them" mentality out there that would be really hard for a little kid to bear I think.
May I ask what her first name is?
I'd probably use Gayle myself - it's in there, and very close in sound. It doesn't seem fair, and it isn't, but unless you are the kind of person who wants to train their children to be crusaders for a cause right from the get-go, I'd sidestep that whole thing.
If you did want to use it though, for some reason I really like the idea of pairing it with a really whimsical Medieval type name; I guess to heighten the old meaning of the word gay? Like Guinevere Gay. Or maybe a Jazz-ager, like Ruby Gay?
May I ask what her first name is?
I'd probably use Gayle myself - it's in there, and very close in sound. It doesn't seem fair, and it isn't, but unless you are the kind of person who wants to train their children to be crusaders for a cause right from the get-go, I'd sidestep that whole thing.
If you did want to use it though, for some reason I really like the idea of pairing it with a really whimsical Medieval type name; I guess to heighten the old meaning of the word gay? Like Guinevere Gay. Or maybe a Jazz-ager, like Ruby Gay?
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Ruby Gay is precious!
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Kathy is her fn and her twin is Karen Fay. I am not a fan of Kathy though. I love the meaning behind Gay that is happy which makes it ironic for me that we use it incorrectly to label homesexual (by those who
oppose homesexualtiy) so it makes me think that we labeled them "happy" because they are true to themselves.
oppose homesexualtiy) so it makes me think that we labeled them "happy" because they are true to themselves.
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I wouldn't recommend using Gay as a boy's name...
Isla Gay, Tenley Gay, Scarlett Gay...Of those three, I like Scarlett Gay best--it has a nice, upbeat cheerfulness to it. Isla Gay, to me, looks a bit like "Gray Isle"...it sounds very thoughtful and poetic.
Isla Gay, Tenley Gay, Scarlett Gay...Of those three, I like Scarlett Gay best--it has a nice, upbeat cheerfulness to it. Isla Gay, to me, looks a bit like "Gray Isle"...it sounds very thoughtful and poetic.
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I like Gaelle and Galee those are nice alternatives
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I like Gail too
Normally I'd say "screw them all -- use if anyway." But... I also think that the name Gay is hunting for trouble. Not only does it now have a very strong meaning, but it is so hackle-raising with so many people. In addition, kids and teenagers still josh and joke about it incessantly. I'd beware.
For alternatives, Gail immediately lept to my mind as well, for a name with a similar sound and feel and no uncomfortable baggage.
There's always your mother's maiden last name or middle name(s) too. :)
Normally I'd say "screw them all -- use if anyway." But... I also think that the name Gay is hunting for trouble. Not only does it now have a very strong meaning, but it is so hackle-raising with so many people. In addition, kids and teenagers still josh and joke about it incessantly. I'd beware.
For alternatives, Gail immediately lept to my mind as well, for a name with a similar sound and feel and no uncomfortable baggage.
There's always your mother's maiden last name or middle name(s) too. :)
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Gayle
Galen
that's all I got.
Galen
that's all I got.
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