[Opinions] Re: Jayden
in reply to a message by rascaldog
Before I start ranting, I do prefer Jaden (spelled Jaden) on a boy only -- a friend of mine named Paiton has a little brother named Jaden, and he's a wonderful person. I also prefer Is on the inside of names and Ys on the outside of names (so Tiffiny instead of Tiffiny and Paiton instead of Payton)
-aden names are, as Julie mentioned, dreadfully overused, which is kind of sad because I adore the name Aidan for a little boy ('course, even if it weren't popular, I wouldn't use it because of The Ring). Even more disturbing trends spoil Jayden for me though . . . Boy names on girls, spelling out sounds, and extra Ys. It isn't that I'm against kr8tive spellings (not that I'm for them, though), it's just that I think spelling names out makes them look horribly . . . not elementary, but something to that affect with a lesser degree. There are names that it doesn't look horrible on, and there are names that are meant to be spelled that way that I don't think are attractive in the least. On another letter, this also falls under the trend of "extra Ys" which I feel is a cardinal sin. The most horrible thing in the world, and I've seen this happen before, is when a mother tacks a Y into a name and thinks that she invinted a new name (a teenage mother I know named her daughter Jessyca, and told me that it meant "strong and beautiful". I told her the correct meaning of Jessica, and she said "Oh, I know, but this isn't Jessica -- I made it up, so I get to make up the meaning, just like the people who made up all of the other names did"). I don't dislike the idea of giving a girl a boys name in and of itself; what I do hate is when a boys name can no longer be used on a boy due to the stigma of that name being so trendy on girls -- Ashley (which I love on a boy but hate on a girl), Courtney, and Whitney for a few (although I do prefer Whitney on a girl, but that isn't the point).
-aden names are, as Julie mentioned, dreadfully overused, which is kind of sad because I adore the name Aidan for a little boy ('course, even if it weren't popular, I wouldn't use it because of The Ring). Even more disturbing trends spoil Jayden for me though . . . Boy names on girls, spelling out sounds, and extra Ys. It isn't that I'm against kr8tive spellings (not that I'm for them, though), it's just that I think spelling names out makes them look horribly . . . not elementary, but something to that affect with a lesser degree. There are names that it doesn't look horrible on, and there are names that are meant to be spelled that way that I don't think are attractive in the least. On another letter, this also falls under the trend of "extra Ys" which I feel is a cardinal sin. The most horrible thing in the world, and I've seen this happen before, is when a mother tacks a Y into a name and thinks that she invinted a new name (a teenage mother I know named her daughter Jessyca, and told me that it meant "strong and beautiful". I told her the correct meaning of Jessica, and she said "Oh, I know, but this isn't Jessica -- I made it up, so I get to make up the meaning, just like the people who made up all of the other names did"). I don't dislike the idea of giving a girl a boys name in and of itself; what I do hate is when a boys name can no longer be used on a boy due to the stigma of that name being so trendy on girls -- Ashley (which I love on a boy but hate on a girl), Courtney, and Whitney for a few (although I do prefer Whitney on a girl, but that isn't the point).
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Can I just point out that there is no law that says one has to go along with the "stigma" about names that become more popular for girls no longer being "useable" on boys? There is no law that prevents people from still naming sons Ashley, Courtney, and Whitney if they wish. The sexism that causes the complete shift from male to female is even more the fault of those who stop giving such names to sons than it is the fault of those who do give them to daughters, IMHO.