I don't mind datedness if there's nothing else wrong. In this case, my cousin's best friend at school was
Elaine, and everyone except my aunt said it the normal way. My aunt called her EElaine, which set my teeth on edge and still does. And, on the other side, I love
Helen so much that
Elaine always seems like a missed opportunity - there goes a sad person who was almost
Helen but she just got unlucky!