That's a sad story, Tandi. You should derive strength from the significance of your name, as described in Sherwood Anderson's poignant short story.
Here's a link where you can read an on-line publication of "Tandy" (it's only two pages long):
http://www.pagebypagebooks.com/Sherwood_Anderson/Winesburg_Ohio/TANDY_concerning_Tandy_Hard_p1.html
-- Nanaea