[Opinions] Re: hypocritical?
They belong together, because of their amorality more than just about anything else besides their physical attraction. Picture Rhett with Melanie? It would be a disaster for Melanie. Rhett knew that too, and since she was so decidedly not his type, and so unlike Scarlett, he respected her more than just about anybody else. You wouldn't think he would give somebody like Melanie the time of day, but since he's a very good judge of character, he knows that there is nothing phony about Melanie, and that she respects him without judging him. That in itself was a movelty.
And picture Scarlett with Ashley. Ashley is so far from amoral it's not even funny. He is so bound by family loyalty and adherence to expectations that he could not rebel or act out the way Scarlett did. He admired this in her, but if he was married to her he'd be miserable, and Scarlett would be also; she mainly wanted him because he was the one male she knew (till she met Rhett) who didn't respond to her flirting and fakeness, but mostly she wanted him because she couldn't have him.
Her father knows the score too, and tells her right at the beginning of the book that marrying Ashley would not make her happy.
No, Scarlett and Scarlett couldn't have found a better match. Rhett recognized this, but Scarlett stil thought she wanted Ashley instead. And Rhett hated Ashley for his perceived spinelessness.
"It's one thing to be open-minded and quite another to be so open-minded your brains fall out."--Dear Abby
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