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Help[Opinions] Re: Havyn
in reply to a message by Geri
Thanks for the input. I had no idea a name would generate such strong emotional reactions. I viewed it as more of a Gaelic name, and conjured up thoughts of a strong, confident women. I pictured it pronounced more with the Ha sound that would be in Hadley.
For the record, adding a y, or spelling something a little different shouldn't come across as uneducated. Unique, but not uneducated. I certainly wouldn't want my child to have the same name as 3 other kids in her class.
I am not an uneducated 15 year old. I am 40ish, and am successfully self employed. She will be our 9th child, a child we are adopting at the age of 6. (Before you judge, there are only 2 left at home, the rest are grown ups living on their own.) But I have taken your advice and insight into consideration.
For the record, adding a y, or spelling something a little different shouldn't come across as uneducated. Unique, but not uneducated. I certainly wouldn't want my child to have the same name as 3 other kids in her class.
I am not an uneducated 15 year old. I am 40ish, and am successfully self employed. She will be our 9th child, a child we are adopting at the age of 6. (Before you judge, there are only 2 left at home, the rest are grown ups living on their own.) But I have taken your advice and insight into consideration.
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Why are you viewing it as a Gaelic name? It's not a Gaelic name lol.
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I didn't say you were uneducated. I said misspelled word names look uneducated. And it's true. They give the impression that you do not know how to spell a word. If you want uniqueness, well, sticking a y in there is actually not going to do it. Finding a name that's actually unique will - not that hard with a little research into popularity stats. I wouldn't want my kid to have the same name as three other kids in the class either, but to use an example - the Jacksons and Jaxons and Jaxsons are all really Jacksons in the end. They're all going to sound the same and still be associated with the same name.
What I'm really mystified by now is viewing it as Gaelic - how do you view a misspelled English word as Gaelic? (But you can find plenty of actually Gaelic names on this site, many of which will be actually unique, so I'd recommend that!)
What I'm really mystified by now is viewing it as Gaelic - how do you view a misspelled English word as Gaelic? (But you can find plenty of actually Gaelic names on this site, many of which will be actually unique, so I'd recommend that!)
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The thing is, changing a random vowel to a Y really isn’t all that unique. It’s a trend that’s been overdone for the last 10-15 years. Those of us who study names have seen more than our fair share of it over the years. And it’s the type of people we’ve seen do it who have informed our opinions about the level of class and education it represents.
There’s absolutely nothing inherently wrong with living in a trailer, but if you met somebody who told you they live in one, you couldn’t help but have some immediate gut assumptions about their background. It’s the same thing with a name like Havyn.
There’s absolutely nothing inherently wrong with living in a trailer, but if you met somebody who told you they live in one, you couldn’t help but have some immediate gut assumptions about their background. It’s the same thing with a name like Havyn.
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It just because so many trendy names have the -on - an or -en at the end of the name turned to -yn, just to spice up a name (regardless of the inconvenience it is to have a name you need to constantly spell out). I think that's where these reactions came from :)
If you like Haven, then maybe just use Haven? I doubt she'll have anyone in the class with the same name as it was on place #433 back in 2012. And of course you've got the luxery of asking her for her opinion. Maybe she likes Haven/Havyn, maybe she doesn't. I think it'd personally try to find a name that isn't too far off of her birth name if I had to rename a 6 year old.
Good luck to you with the adoption and the decisions regarding her name.
If you like Haven, then maybe just use Haven? I doubt she'll have anyone in the class with the same name as it was on place #433 back in 2012. And of course you've got the luxery of asking her for her opinion. Maybe she likes Haven/Havyn, maybe she doesn't. I think it'd personally try to find a name that isn't too far off of her birth name if I had to rename a 6 year old.
Good luck to you with the adoption and the decisions regarding her name.
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Thank you Mar. We actually wouldn't rename her in the first place, except she is from another country and doesn't speak English. We give our adopted kids an American name and keep their given name as their middle name. We continue calling them by their given names when we are in private. Our adopted kids have preferred their American names but could never have given their input or consent when they didn't understand the language, haha :)
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It’s a word. It has a correct spelling. Spelling it wrong does come across as uneducated.
Hadley is good. I actually like Haven (the meaning makes me feel warm and fuzzy).
At 6 the child is old enough to have input into whether they want to change their name or not, so I hope you’re willing to give them the chance to have input. They may be pretty attached to their birth name and it’s going to be tough enough for them to get used to a new family without throwing in a new name if they aren’t prepared for it.
Hadley is good. I actually like Haven (the meaning makes me feel warm and fuzzy).
At 6 the child is old enough to have input into whether they want to change their name or not, so I hope you’re willing to give them the chance to have input. They may be pretty attached to their birth name and it’s going to be tough enough for them to get used to a new family without throwing in a new name if they aren’t prepared for it.
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