I'm also in the U.S. and I don't think the "Gray-am" pronunciation would catch on unless you used the Graeme spelling. Otherwise it's the graham cracker. :-P
Personally, I rather like our pronunciation of Graham as well - but it does sometimes remind me of grams. And grandmas.
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